Personality

Tinks favorite game is Hide and Seek

On day 7 of Master Cleanse I’m having a breakthrough.
The natural calm that comes is allowing me to address a common yet hidden problem.
My 4 planets in the 12th house insights are being illuminated.
Since schizoidal type patterns are rarely spotted in women and more common in inner city males, the area of research into effective therapies may be underfunded.
How can I help?
IN a culture that encourages passivity in women, schizoidal patterns may even be normalized by grandmothers wishing to hide from their own anxieties. They keep their kin close by in a form of emotional choke chain. The kin are mostly oblivious to her grip, especially the inner city boy.
Keeping gamps happy is the name of the game.
Gamps may be a secret drug user/smoker/drinker/OTC remedy user. Cute as a button and cunning as a hyena.
Gamps may be replaced by any female guardian, including the young single mother with a son living in the less advantaged locations of a city.

If only you COULD ask her how HER mother is doing…

My pet is reflecting to me the personality.
So cute you want to go over and touch her, but her snap is ready when you least expect it.
So don’t wave a finger in front of her snout, she will find that intrusive and act accordingly.
She may run up to you in a tease that she wants to interact, but the minute you do, she will run to her den and hide.
Her favorite game is HIDE AND SEEK.

Remember Good Games

06 Nov 2011

12 Steps in 12 days: Step 1: Admit

So, I am working my way through Fr. Thomas Keating’s book “Divine Therapy”
Step 1: I am powerless over _____X_______ and my life has become unmanageable.
Where X is:
something in my personality development that I cannot see that has led me to this moment.
Where I can accept that I can really look at my life now and see what areas I have not taken on board.
I have made a huge stride forward to this moment by choosing to live on my own.
Whatever goodness has come my way, is now visible to me as the fruits of my labor.
What has rendered me powerless is my gradual willingness to let go of ego centered striving.
I can attribute this to a long run of trial and error and reading good books.
I know that I did not get my own way as a child and that has led me to a nagging frustration in life that I have compounded over time.
I have had grand delusions that if people only knew how smart I was……they would treat me differently.
All the time, I never nurtured myself except minimally.
I learned how to dodge, avoid and run from my shadow self. The part of me that I had no process to process.
I’m getting better now, partly because aging does seem to mellow out the rough edges of one’s personality.
Decades of experiences gives you something tangible to reflect on.
So, had I done absolutely nothing remarkable in my life, could I be at the same point anyway?
According to Ken Wilber, no. I would be even more retarded than I am today.
According to his research, the one practice that bumps everyone up a few stages is incorporating a contemplative practice twice a day for 20 mins. SO that’s what I am doing. I either take a 20 min nap or 20 min meditation twice a day.
What results am I expecting to see?
I think if the flow of the steps are perfectly designed, I would naturally flow into
Step 2. starts tomorrow….

28 Sep 2011

Threshold management in dramaturgy

Whether we like this or not, we all play social roles.
Perhaps we weren’t reminded that we were hired to fulfill a social role.
We didn’t realize we were hired to play IN a team.
In teams, there are front stage, back stage, center stage, borders and off stage roles.
On the edges of the borders there are discrepant roles (dark, inside, outside, free, strategic) all designed to filter the experience.

In roles we have: informer, shill, spotter, mediator(messenger), non person (janitor, usher etc), service specialist, colleague, confidant, stage talker, back stage talker, etc

So, when you off to work/school tomorrow, or return to family, realize…
you were hired to play in a dramaturgy.

Remember Good Games.

23 Aug 2011

Opportunism: political, economic, intellectual, spiritual, natural, sexual, social

I haven’t met a person yet who is free of all opportunistic tendencies.
It’s a matter of degrees of exploitation.

The 6 Heart Virtue approach is to compassionately view everyone you meet with this blessing:
I appreciate that (just like me), this person is seeking an opportunity to improve his/her life in some way.

Remember Good Games.

22 Aug 2011

less WINE, more RSVPs

the acronym for dysfunctional communication is WINE

W(ithdrawing)
I(invalidating)
N(egative interpretation)
E(scalating)

Turn it around with another acronym: RSVP
R(eaffirming)
S(oothing)
V(alidating)
P(ositive interpretation)

from my table to yours, mary

19 Aug 2011

Getting off the Serpent ride

When we encounter a surprising/upsetting/unusual/chaotic event,
we can select which of the 6 heart virues to emanate instead of resorting the reaction serpent of the personality.

23 Jul 2011

Conscious dis-association vs. Unconscious Dissociation

Help

We can all learn to spot the difference between someone who is coping with/from a violent/abusive situation by dissociating (eg. staring off into space, pretending to be someone else, dishonesty, defensiveness, trying to fly under the radar, hiding behind a blank stare or grin etc) and someone who is deliberatelty choosing not to put their attention on something.

The incidence of humans suffering from “DID” or multiple personality disorder is on the rise as the population swells.
The root cause is direct suffering/exposure to cruelty or indirectly by exposure to others suffering, drugs:recreationals and prescription, watching violent movies/news reels/sports etc.

Some of the signs of the unconscious kind is: lack of responsibility for actions, forgetfulness, amnesia, impulsive actions, criminal acts, justifying cruel actions etc. (vicious cycles)

24 Jun 2011

Day 9 Master Cleanse

It’s on autopilot now.
No fighting with the process.
This has been the best experience of my entire life.
I have a real grasp at the difference between socially enforced gorging vs. real hunger and dehydration vs. proper hydration.
It’s like coming to the end of a great book.
I feel a little sad that I will be ending the best cleanse of my life.
I want to help others who are too afraid or too embedded in a type 1, 2 or 3 (fear-based) belief system to take the Master Cleanse.
Wake up, sea salt flush, lemonade meal replacement, morning ADLs/activities, NAP, lemonade meal replacement, daily ADLs/activities, NAP, lemonade meal replacement, evening ADLs/activities, CORE SLEEP. repeat.

Result: Gone from drinking 1 liter to 5 liters of water a day. If I went back to 1 liter a day, I would probaly lose another 4 pounds from dehydration, but that is not my goal. My goal is to maintain the 5 liter optimal water flush for the rest of my life.

18 Jun 2011

Day 8 Master Cleanse

Feel: physical/emotional/spiritual clarity.
Notice: distinct change in body shape.
Routine: prepare sea salt glass night before.
Put liter of water bedside.
Upon waking add water to salt and drink like a “shot”
Flush down with rest of the liter of water.
DO morning routine (whatever that means for you)
Make up 1 liter of lemonade brew and drink all-at-once.
DO ADLS, morning activities (work or whatever that means for you)
Take 20 minute nap before making up lunch lemonade brew.
Make up 1 liter of lemonade brew and drink all-at-once.
DO ADLS, daily activities (work or whatever that means for you)
Take 20 minute nap before making up evening meal replacement lemonade brew.
DO ADLS, evening activities (recreation or whatever that means for you)
Drink 1 liter of water all-at-once.
GO to core sleep mode.

17 Jun 2011