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Another Integral Male in St Pete!
OK so it’s looking up for the girls in St Pete today.
Will YOU be next?
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Healing GAMPS
Tinks favorite game is Hide and Seek
The natural calm that comes is allowing me to address a common yet hidden problem.
My 4 planets in the 12th house insights are being illuminated.
Since schizoidal type patterns are rarely spotted in women and more common in inner city males, the area of research into effective therapies may be underfunded.
How can I help?
IN a culture that encourages passivity in women, schizoidal patterns may even be normalized by grandmothers wishing to hide from their own anxieties. They keep their kin close by in a form of emotional choke chain. The kin are mostly oblivious to her grip, especially the inner city boy.
Keeping gamps happy is the name of the game.
Gamps may be a secret drug user/smoker/drinker/OTC remedy user. Cute as a button and cunning as a hyena.
Gamps may be replaced by any female guardian, including the young single mother with a son living in the less advantaged locations of a city.
If only you COULD ask her how HER mother is doing…
My pet is reflecting to me the personality.
So cute you want to go over and touch her, but her snap is ready when you least expect it.
So don’t wave a finger in front of her snout, she will find that intrusive and act accordingly.
She may run up to you in a tease that she wants to interact, but the minute you do, she will run to her den and hide.
Her favorite game is HIDE AND SEEK.
Remember Good Games
12 Steps in 12 days: Step 1: Admit
So, I am working my way through Fr. Thomas Keating’s book “Divine Therapy”
Step 1: I am powerless over _____X_______ and my life has become unmanageable.
Where X is:
something in my personality development that I cannot see that has led me to this moment.
Where I can accept that I can really look at my life now and see what areas I have not taken on board.
I have made a huge stride forward to this moment by choosing to live on my own.
Whatever goodness has come my way, is now visible to me as the fruits of my labor.
What has rendered me powerless is my gradual willingness to let go of ego centered striving.
I can attribute this to a long run of trial and error and reading good books.
I know that I did not get my own way as a child and that has led me to a nagging frustration in life that I have compounded over time.
I have had grand delusions that if people only knew how smart I was……they would treat me differently.
All the time, I never nurtured myself except minimally.
I learned how to dodge, avoid and run from my shadow self. The part of me that I had no process to process.
I’m getting better now, partly because aging does seem to mellow out the rough edges of one’s personality.
Decades of experiences gives you something tangible to reflect on.
So, had I done absolutely nothing remarkable in my life, could I be at the same point anyway?
According to Ken Wilber, no. I would be even more retarded than I am today.
According to his research, the one practice that bumps everyone up a few stages is incorporating a contemplative practice twice a day for 20 mins. SO that’s what I am doing. I either take a 20 min nap or 20 min meditation twice a day.
What results am I expecting to see?
I think if the flow of the steps are perfectly designed, I would naturally flow into
Step 2. starts tomorrow….
Logical/Probable/Plausible?
Psychologists tell us that the negative voice (a universal), originated in early childhood, runs your life behind the scenes and is re-triggered by “love” itself (intimacy issues).
Logical?
Priests tell us that this negative voice exists because we are sinners.
Probable?
The conspiracy theorists tell us that interdimensional beings are putting the negative voice in our heads?
Plausible?
Who might be right?
Does it matter?
What DOES matter, is that we become alert TO OUR OWN negative voice and divert it into art as a means of self expression or find a good dialectic therapist to pull it out of you.
How can we tell if the negative voice is ours?
Take a look around you…
are you in the presence of someone else who seems to be negative today?
TADA! The Law of Attraction is at play.
You draw in vibrationally the negativity until you see it as something YOU are generating.
Of course the same goes for positivity.
You draw that to you until you recognize it as something YOU are attracting.
SO, no more secrets…your life is what you make it.
Remember Good Games
Am I manipulating you or confessing?
Confession is admission
I haven’t met a human yet who isn’t manipulating in some way.
I think we give ourselves permission to manipulate without self examination.
Only when we develop a conscience, do we start to re-examine our actions.
We start to become aware that we are alive because we have successfully manipulated parent(s) to take care of us.
We can only separate from them when we know we can successfully manipulate others, if only for a while.
Somewhere in all that we forgot we were manipulating and start to take ourselves seriously.
We separate from other beings slowly over time until we bottom out. (feel maximum lonliness)
If that doesnt kill us, or land us in an institution, we start the inward journey of self recovery.
We start getting honest.
It’s painful.
So we need to have the ability to forgive ourselves and others because we really are all in this together.
Don’t be too judgmental about the manipulation of others, because they are just like us.
(Trying to survive, learning about life, feel lonely, want to be validated, appreciated, forgiven & understood)
Remember Good Games
IS there a cosmic magpie?
If we could intuit what is most likely to happen next, based on accurate tracking, like Hurricane Irene…
we could take the necessary steps to evacuate along the most likely path of the hurricane.
If we wanted however, to guarantee some destruction, we would go out of our way to remain in our home along the path of the hurricane.
Taken to the extreme, we could throw a hurricane party.
If we wanted to destroy some secrets, we could pile them up and torch to them just as the peak of the storm was flying by and attribute the “house fire” to a lightening strike. Seem plausible?
Where I live, there are fringe people who seem to have a second job leaping in and out of dumpsters. Looking for God or God knows what.
A pre emptive action, might be to take my trash to a recycling site and trust the operators will not rummage through it or destroy it at home and disperse the ash to the yard – hoping there is nothing toxic therein.
If all evidence is looking like we have a population crisis, what pre-adaptive evolutionary steps might be a good idea to imagine?
Imagine a benevolent race of galactic travellers looking to take us/or some of us away, or a malevolent race of galactic travellers who are just waiting patiently for us to self implode so they can move in and enjoy our planet – like cosmic dumpster divers or magpies?
Is there a Cosmic Magpie?
Remember Good Games
Threshold management in dramaturgy
Whether we like this or not, we all play social roles.
Perhaps we weren’t reminded that we were hired to fulfill a social role.
We didn’t realize we were hired to play IN a team.
In teams, there are front stage, back stage, center stage, borders and off stage roles.
On the edges of the borders there are discrepant roles (dark, inside, outside, free, strategic) all designed to filter the experience.
In roles we have: informer, shill, spotter, mediator(messenger), non person (janitor, usher etc), service specialist, colleague, confidant, stage talker, back stage talker, etc
So, when you off to work/school tomorrow, or return to family, realize…
you were hired to play in a dramaturgy.
Remember Good Games.
less WINE, more RSVPs
the acronym for dysfunctional communication is WINE
W(ithdrawing)
I(invalidating)
N(egative interpretation)
E(scalating)
Turn it around with another acronym: RSVP
R(eaffirming)
S(oothing)
V(alidating)
P(ositive interpretation)
from my table to yours, mary