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Vicious Cycles

Am I manipulating you or confessing?

Confession is admission

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I haven’t met a human yet who isn’t manipulating in some way.
I think we give ourselves permission to manipulate without self examination.
Only when we develop a conscience, do we start to re-examine our actions.
We start to become aware that we are alive because we have successfully manipulated parent(s) to take care of us.
We can only separate from them when we know we can successfully manipulate others, if only for a while.
Somewhere in all that we forgot we were manipulating and start to take ourselves seriously.
We separate from other beings slowly over time until we bottom out. (feel maximum lonliness)
If that doesnt kill us, or land us in an institution, we start the inward journey of self recovery.
We start getting honest.
It’s painful.
So we need to have the ability to forgive ourselves and others because we really are all in this together.
Don’t be too judgmental about the manipulation of others, because they are just like us.
(Trying to survive, learning about life, feel lonely, want to be validated, appreciated, forgiven & understood)

Remember Good Games

02 Sep 2011
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IS there a cosmic magpie?

If we could intuit what is most likely to happen next, based on accurate tracking, like Hurricane Irene…
we could take the necessary steps to evacuate along the most likely path of the hurricane.
If we wanted however, to guarantee some destruction, we would go out of our way to remain in our home along the path of the hurricane.
Taken to the extreme, we could throw a hurricane party.
If we wanted to destroy some secrets, we could pile them up and torch to them just as the peak of the storm was flying by and attribute the “house fire” to a lightening strike. Seem plausible?
Where I live, there are fringe people who seem to have a second job leaping in and out of dumpsters. Looking for God or God knows what.
A pre emptive action, might be to take my trash to a recycling site and trust the operators will not rummage through it or destroy it at home and disperse the ash to the yard – hoping there is nothing toxic therein.
If all evidence is looking like we have a population crisis, what pre-adaptive evolutionary steps might be a good idea to imagine?
Imagine a benevolent race of galactic travellers looking to take us/or some of us away, or a malevolent race of galactic travellers who are just waiting patiently for us to self implode so they can move in and enjoy our planet – like cosmic dumpster divers or magpies?

Is there a Cosmic Magpie?

Remember Good Games

31 Aug 2011
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Threshold management in dramaturgy

Whether we like this or not, we all play social roles.
Perhaps we weren’t reminded that we were hired to fulfill a social role.
We didn’t realize we were hired to play IN a team.
In teams, there are front stage, back stage, center stage, borders and off stage roles.
On the edges of the borders there are discrepant roles (dark, inside, outside, free, strategic) all designed to filter the experience.

In roles we have: informer, shill, spotter, mediator(messenger), non person (janitor, usher etc), service specialist, colleague, confidant, stage talker, back stage talker, etc

So, when you off to work/school tomorrow, or return to family, realize…
you were hired to play in a dramaturgy.

Remember Good Games.

23 Aug 2011
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less WINE, more RSVPs

the acronym for dysfunctional communication is WINE

W(ithdrawing)
I(invalidating)
N(egative interpretation)
E(scalating)

Turn it around with another acronym: RSVP
R(eaffirming)
S(oothing)
V(alidating)
P(ositive interpretation)

from my table to yours, mary

 

19 Aug 2011
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Practice Acts of Valor

So. One of the 6 heart virtues, is Valor. When I first read about it, i didn’t know the “when-which-how” process to put it into action. I have committed acts of courage in my life but they weren’t deliberately planned. You could say they were random acts of self defense. Living defensively. That has accrued me a few extra years to figure out how to shift from LIVING DEFENSIVELY to LIVING DELIBERATELY. Deliberately practicing acts of valor is something new for me. Speaking truth to domination is my next step. Each time someone wants to dominate over me in a conversation I will practice the art of stopping them in their tracks and remind them that this is what they are doing. No one knows me enough to tell me what I should or should not be doing with my life. Unless I ask for advice, no one needs to give me any. And I don’t need to act as an advisor to anyone else either, unless through trackable virtuous acts, they have decided that maybe my POV might be helpful.

It will be a challenge to get through this day as I practice Acts of Valor.

May I extend the 6 heart virtues to each sentient being who enters my energy field today and recognize the source that is within them.

28 Jul 2011
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Getting off the Serpent ride

When we encounter a surprising/upsetting/unusual/chaotic event,
we can select which of the 6 heart virues to emanate instead of resorting the reaction serpent of the personality.

23 Jul 2011
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Conscious dis-association vs. Unconscious Dissociation

Help

We can all learn to spot the difference between someone who is coping with/from a violent/abusive situation by dissociating (eg. staring off into space, pretending to be someone else, dishonesty, defensiveness, trying to fly under the radar, hiding behind a blank stare or grin etc) and someone who is deliberatelty choosing not to put their attention on something.

The incidence of humans suffering from “DID” or multiple personality disorder is on the rise as the population swells.
The root cause is direct suffering/exposure to cruelty or indirectly by exposure to others suffering, drugs:recreationals and prescription, watching violent movies/news reels/sports etc.

Some of the signs of the unconscious kind is: lack of responsibility for actions, forgetfulness, amnesia, impulsive actions, criminal acts, justifying cruel actions etc. (vicious cycles)

24 Jun 2011
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